I Don’t Belong In The Kitchen

What really gets on my nerve, more than anything, is the ingrained standard that women are to take care of everything in the house while men are free to do whatever they want solely because… 

Fill in the blank yourself, because there is no logical reason.

Now look, I’m not complaining about having to cook or having to clean. These are the concerns and complaints of an everyday teenager. Now what I am complaining about is that my mother chooses to come to me with these chores when my perfectly good, oaf of a brother is sitting on the couch playing on his iPhone, cackling to himself.

I’d be fine if I was the one to do the cooking so long as my brother was the one to do the cleaning. This, unfortunately, is not a scenario that will happen under my mother’s roof. 

See, if I complain, my mother simply turns this around and makes me look like the villain. She makes me look like the lazy, good-for-nothing daughter that does nothing at home (which is not that far from the truth, but still). She’ll then ignore me, and if she does talk to me, she’ll use herself as an example as to why I should help her in the kitchen.

First of all, I have zero interest in cooking. Second of all:

Dear future husband,

You are going to cook and clean just as I do. Capisce? 

Love, your future wife

Maybe I am a bitter, but I’m sick of these archaic traditions. Women are not meant to be in the kitchen; it’s somewhere we choose to be. For my mom, the kitchen is a place she chooses to be. She loves cooking. That’s her thing. But for me, this couldn’t be farther from what I want.

Problems of an eighteen-year-old Gujarati kid, I suppose.

5 Truths

I was talking to my friend about blogging, and she shared this quote by Brad Paisley with me:

Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one

And at first, I thought I would end up writing a list of resolutions. You know, the cliché “I’m going to work out everyday” or “I’m going to let go of my grudges”. I’m sure I will make that post sometime soon, but I wanted to do something different.

I think this year has been especially fundamental in me realizing truths about myself – truths that aren’t necessarily nice and pretty. Regardless, I feel that I’ve grown up a lot this past year, and while I probably have a lot more growing up to do in the next few years, I’ve learned one important thing. Don’t change yourself for others. And you know, I thought it was complete bull when people told this to me. I thought, why in the world would I ever change myself for someone? On reflecting, I realized that there are many different versions of me – who I am to my friends, who I am to my family, who I am to my enemies. I could go on and on, but I’ve decided it’s time for me to come clean starting with 5 truths about myself that people may not necessarily know.

1. I am an avid-reader of fan fiction.

Well, why not start by jumping off the deep end?

In middle school, I discovered the world of fan fiction. I thought it was embarrassing because I was reading stories by nerds who couldn’t let go of the fact that the book was over. Over time, it became clear to me that this was just a way for readers to explore the world the author had created for them. I find it a pretty neat concept, and I’ve read some amazing stories on these websites. Particularly, I’m still hung up over Harry Potter, so yes, I still do (on occasion) read stories from this website. Judge me or not, but I can guarantee that I’m reading A+ quality writing.

I actually tried to write some, but that was a bust. My mind goes a million miles per minute, and as soon as I get something down, I’m already ten new ideas ahead. Basically, I wouldn’t be good at sitting and working on something for a long time. (There go my dreams of being an author, oops)

2. I dance in front of my mirror. Always.

I think one of the saddest things about college is that I don’t have a mirror (well, I do…but I have two roommates). My imagination goes crazy, and it’s nice because I can dance however I want and no one can say anything. It’s so nice to be back because I can blast my music and dance like there’s no tomorrow.

If you’re judging, try it. It’s a great stress-reliever.

3. I spent more than $200 on my hair.

Okay, so technically it was my mom. When there’s so many other things I could be spending money on, I decided to do it on my hair. My natural hair is wavy and there is a LOT of it. It’s incredibly difficult to manage, and getting a keratin treatment done on it was the best thing possible. One, because it’s a lot more manageable and two, because it’s stick straight (which I find tends to suit me). Bite me about spending money. We all have to splurge sometimes.

4. My GPA is below a 3.0.

I think the worst part of having this GPA is that I know I could’ve done better. I skipped out on work for really no reason except my laziness, but I couldn’t even bring myself to complete my work. I think the freedom of college definitely got to my head, and I could sit here and make empty promises of aiming for all A’s. What I do know is that I’ll definitely cut down on the naps and actually make an attempt to succeed this semester.

5. Life is a wonderful thing.

It’s not really my place to tell, but my friends and I just had a scare where someone’s life was in danger. While it’s being resolved right now, I’ve never really been this close to such a situation. To be honest, the uncertainty is terrifying but I think the human spirit is a wonderful thing. Despite not knowing the person in question, so many people acted to make sure that they were okay. There’s something wonderful about camaraderie and how in the end, we only have each other to endure this mad, mad world.

To the person, I hope with all my heart that you’re alright.

To everyone else, I hope your 2014 is wonderful. I hope mine is amazing, or at the very least, surprising.

Dance: An Art Form

I’ve always felt that dance is my release, my escape from the world around me. It allows me to shine, and forget the rest of my problems. For those of you who don’t dance (because let’s face it, everyone can dance – it’s just a matter of how well), liken it to something you have a passion for. Whether that be running or painting or even writing, you’ll know what I mean when I say that this is my release. Once I start dancing, nothing really matters except for the moves.

Of all the episodes I’ve watched of So You Think You Can Dance, this has to be my all time favorite. The story, the expressions, and of course, the dancing. I feel that you can really see how dance is an art form through this piece. There are so many minute details that come together to form this, and it is amazing.

After watching this a couple times, I really do miss dancing.

Until next time,

shivaaani

Outfits: Dressy

I really wanted to start posting different outfits. Often, I find myself forgetting to post outfits that I wear, so that was a bust. Instead, as college is coming up, I decided to start a look book of sorts with different outfits. Hope you enjoy!

ImageDress: Macy’s (by Guess), Heels: Nine West, Clutch: Nordstrom (by Expressions NYC), Cuff: F21, Earrings: F21

This can definitely be worn at a party or get-together! I love the combination of pink & gold as you can see by the collage. There’s something that’s really eye-catching and powerful about it, in my opinion. I actually own the dress and the heels. A word of warning – if you’re not used to heels, I definitely suggest substituting them for something lower and more comfortable. For me, although I’m not great on heels, I fell in love with these. They make a girl feel confident! The cuff is very classy, adjustable, and affordable! What more could you want? I think they help the outfit reach a level of sophistication. This can also be said about the clutch, which is in white & gold. With earrings, I feel like it’s definitely easy to go for fun and bright rather than sophisticated, so I found this cute lightning bolt studs from Forever 21 for a great price.

Any suggestions? Questions? Leave them in the comments below!

-shivaaani (:

Día de los Enamorados

(or, you know, Valentine’s Day)

Today was a pretty interesting day, actually. I got a couple of grams from my friends. Quick note, I think my school got a bit cheaper. They attached minuscule warheads instead of the regular big candy. Although, maybe it was just to my grams because some of my friends got pretty big sized tootsie rolls. After that, I got a cupcake. And I got two singing grams (where people sing to you) – Gangnam Style & some song in Spanish (I think it was Cuando estás conmigo? But not sure!) Anyways, that was a fun experience as always. See, my friend and I have been “competing” to see who could top the other.

Anywhoooo, here’s the more important part. We had to write poems in Spanish, that could be [I don’t know what I was going to say here, but I fell asleep so I felt like I should put this up]

I’m not completely sure what I was going to say, but here’s my poem!

Amor

Amor es facíl

como el aire – puro, invisible, fuerte

La fuerza más conocido del mundo

Entre dos personas juntas

  o un padre y su niño

No importa – amor es amor

No puede controlarlo;

 puede ser difícil

como una roca – duro, visible, fuerte

Es una emoción incontrolable

También es lo que haces para una persona

Lo que dejas para esa persona

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Amor es complicado

como una persona – dificíl, distinto, fuerte

Es diferente para cada persona

pero esta verdad es lo más interesante sobre amor

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La distancia no es un chiste,

pero vale la pena

cuando estamos juntos

So, there it is. Those are the same pictures I used, which I got from Tumblr. I suppose I should also translate, but the thing about Spanish is that when translated, it doesn’t sound as pretty (plus my poem doesn’t make sense in some places…), so I’ll just let you, my readers, enjoy these words.

Until next time,

shivaaani (: